give me MY $$$!

art on one dollar bills

A good jump to 2012 was getting my BIG FAT MOFO raise.  It was no easy task and even though I deserved it,  it was LOOOOOOOOOOONG overdue, this was something I had to step up to ask for if I wanted it.

I had literally spent months researching online best and professional ways of how one should ask for a raise. There’s a lot of good info out there, I will say, but this is how I ended up asking for a raise.

I had spent all of 2011 being loyal and falling for who is perhaps the most selfish man (really child in man’s body) in Chicago. Right before the holidays, I was hurt, sad, depressed, it was my favorite time of year and I was absolutely NOT feeling it. I woke up one morning in a bad mood as usual, on top of being sad, I was now mad, not just over the coward shithead I was involved with, but because of work too. It was bad enough to get out of bed every morning feeling depressed, but it made it worse to have to go into a job that I absolutely bust my ass for and hadn’t received a pay increase in 3 years not to mention my pay grade was well below the average of my profession. Pretty much I was feeling fed-up with shit.

Everyone says, “It’s hard times right now, a lot of companies aren’t giving annual pay increases at the moment, be grateful to have a job… blah, blah and blah.”  I am eternally grateful for having a job, especially one as a graphic designer. I know there are lot of people who studied graphic design and do not have a job in their field, so yes, I do understand how hard it is out there. However, I am no fool, greed is what runs this world, it’s not like back in the old times where companies did truly value their employees and higher ups had no problem distributing the wealth to the very employees that contributed to the success of the company. It’s not like that anymore, there are way too many companies these days that will get away for as long as they can with giving no pay increases and will milk the “state of the economy” excuse for as much as it’s worth.

Well, one morning before the Christmas holidays, I had a meeting with my manager to review project lists, which of course I dragged my feet to because frankly I just wasn’t in the mood to socialize with anyone, even if it was about work. As the meeting was about to end and seriously with NO thought to it, the words “I need a raise…” just came flowing out. I walked in that meeting not at all prepared or even planning to ask for a raise, but I remember thinking to myself, “F*ck this, I’m tired of this sh*t!” and so I asked for a raise. The conversation lasted about 20 minutes, my manager is a great person, a woman I enjoy working for and was in full support, but of course, as Corporate America works, it’s always the people who sit in a big fancy office all day, who don’t know one employee from the next to decide who’s deserving of the company wealth.

My request was in talks for 2 months and a few days, mainly because of the amount I asked for. Never mind that the due diligence proved how underpaid I was, that didn’t matter, my request wasn’t a simple yes.

Finally, my answer came through and I was given my pay increase with a condition, but a good condition.  I do feel accomplished, more so because I know what my manager had to do and go through to get this request fulfilled for me, and that’s more of an honor to me than any amount of money. When a superior goes to bat for you and hits hard, you know it’s because they see your work as irreplaceable, too valuable to lose and that tells me I’m doing something extremely right.  It gives me a boost of confidence in my work. As a Graphic Designer, that’s a great thing.

YAY ME!  :-)

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2012 update!

to brighten my day

Well February came and went so fast that I didn’t even realize March had already started!

To report on my year of life changes, February was a bit brutal but in a successful way.

In SHORT as possible:

1.   I took the biggest step I have ever taken in my life. A step towards happiness and good health. Won’t go into details of what, but me, myself and I will be just fine.

2.   Gym every chance I get and becoming knowledgeable in healthy eats. All in an effort to not only shed some pounds BUT to be healthy. I don’t care that I’m a chubby gal, so long as I’m a healthy chubby gal. Medications can’t be the only option to becoming well. If you can cure yourself or become well by changing eating habits, then why not do that? It’s natural.

P.S. shedding pounds slowly is also a benefit.

3.   I got a big FAT MO-FO raise at work!!!!!!!! Oh yeah!! $$$$$$$ :-)

4.   Well, I’m not going to say I failed the sobriety challenge, but I did have a few drinks recently while I was out with friends I hadn’t seen in a while. They’re people I don’t see often and so I wanted to enjoy a drink with them, but glad to say, it was easy to limit myself. I’m back on the sobriety challenge til May, although it was easy to limit my alcohol consumption, I’m just still not at all in the mood to consume alcohol.

5.   As an over thinker and planner, I’m learning to take one day at a time, this is a bit challenging, but these days I’m finding it a bit easier and I feel less stressed.

6.   I’ve been attending mass! Glad to report, I didn’t burst into flames when I step my foot into church.

All in all, February started out rough. I have my good days and bad days, just like everyone else in the world, but it’s slowly becoming easier to live a positive and healthy lifestyle.

2012 started out with a struggle and it’s been challenging, I’m usually one to complain how time goes so fast, but I look forward to crossing off a month. I’m anxious to see myself at end of the year. I know the person i am now, will not be the entirely same person in December. Good changes in my life are happening and I’m making them myself.

March 2012… lets GO!

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disappointment = so emo

me, myself and i

I find myself lately trying to handle disappointments in a healthy carefree way… basically as in, move on and get over it, but it is so much easier said than done. For the most part I can handle disappointments pretty well, but what I am struggling with is moving on from being disappointed by people in my life.

I am usually particular about the people I choose to surround myself with, and yes of course I’ve been friends with people I knew damn well I could not expect much from, but there is a reason for them not being present in my life now.

I have been disappointed by family before and was able to move past it quickly. Why? Well, as much as I love them dearly and would not trade them for the world, but frankly, I don’t have a choice. They are my bloodline and they are the people God put in my life to be forever connected to.

Friends on the other hand, are family we CHOOSE, which is why I think I am struggling with moving past the disappointment. Because I have chosen them to be in my life, I do not expect hurtful actions, I understand there may be disagreements from time to time, but not heartbreaks.

“Forgive and Forget” is a bull shit philosophy and I am so tired of hearing that. You can forgive, but you can not forget how someone once hurt you. All is forgiven and I know eventually I will get over the hurt, but unfortunately I am not sure if it will be forgotten or if I may even feel the same for that friendship as before. I guess only time will tell.

There are very few people I will go above and beyond for, when I choose you as a friend, I am reliable for whatever you may need, I will have your back in anything and most importantly I am loyal to that friendship. The least I expect in return is for the same kind of loyalty. I really did not think that my expectations were so unreasonable.

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What?! No beer?!!!

the last beer (drink) I had: January 1, 2012

 

Oh man, oh man… my last beer consumption was January 1. It’s been ONE entire beer-less, actually vice-less month thus far.  Has it been hard? Well, January was pretty busy for me, so I hardly noticed the lack of beer in my system. However, this past Sunday is when i felt like I needed something to take the edge off.  So, I’m anticipating month two to be a bit of a challenge. To top it off one of my favorite drinking buddies will be in town for a few days this month, if I can get past that weekend with him, then the upcoming months will be a breeze.  My intention is to go as long as I can stand it or in May when we toast at my cousin’s wedding, which ever comes first.

I joke how I’m practicing sobriety, but I do know that sobriety is no joke as I’m sure many alcoholics or addicts struggle with it. Me going sober has nothing to do with addiction. It’s just something I want to do to clear my head. It’s a challenge to myself to learn not only self-control but to stay in control at all times; so, is the reasoning in that brain of mine. I’m not entirely certain as to why I’m really doing this, but I do know that I needed a break from it all. Too many underlying issues were starting to feel intensified and so it gets in the way of actually enjoying what should be a fun night of partying.

I will say though, January was pretty damn productive. Since I wasn’t spending Sundays hungover and Mondays at work dragging feet, I got a lot done this month. More reading, ahead on my project list at work, got some things organized, did more errands, ah and of course watched more movies. With me spending nights in to prevent the temptation of alcohol consumption, I’ve become a total lame-ass. Netflix instant streaming is my new best friend!

Month two of 2012… BRING IT!

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Ramble #2: A Woman’s Right to Shoes…Sex and the City


Watch the video first… please!

Ah… this episode of Sex and the City always leads to pure rambles in my head, and the longer I remain single, the more on point this episode is.

Last week I was practically dying with a cold and basically spent two days on the couch watching reruns of everything including a few “Sex and the City” episodes. I’m not a huge fan of “Sex and the City”, only because I find Sarah Jessica Parker annoying, and so watching episodes of “Sex and the City” more than once is not necessary. However, the episode A Woman’s Right to Shoes I can watch more than once and will watch again when I catch the rerun on TV. Carrie makes VERY valid points in two areas of single-hood, 1. single-hood as a real life and 2. celebrating life choices.

 

Single-hood vs Married/Parent-hood

It irks me when people think being married with kids is considered more of a real life versus being single. It surprises me how often people do unintentionally belittle me because of it too. At least I hope it’s unintentional. I can be temper-mental and speak my mind boldly, but I dismiss it, because this is my theory, they have placed themselves in a bubble and lost touch with reality.  Poor them for believing married with kids is more of a real life. So, I keep my mouth shut and let them sit on their high-horse, because chances are if they believe that, then that’s what’s getting them through their married-with-kids day. I also sometimes think some are secretly envious of my single-hood and so they act like pretentious motherly/wifely snobs.

A married-with-kids life is no more or no less a real life than living single. Yes, I understand that I can purchase $200+ shoes for ME and it might be a possibility that I won’t be able to do that if I have kids, but I WORK for it and because of that, it makes my single life just as real as any married-with-kids life. And NO, I am not comparing overpriced shoes to children, but the point I’m trying to make is, I get up every morning to hustle my ass to work to get the bills paid, whatever they are.  Although responsibilities differ, we all have them and we all do what we have to do to pay the bills and provide the life we CHOSE for ourselves.

So for those that do think being married with kids constitutes as a real life where as my life is not, wake the f*ck up! We all have real lives, we just have DIFFERENT ones.

 

Celebrating life choices

I love when Carrie totals up how much she’s spent on celebrating this woman’s life choices. Before I ever saw this episode, it never occurred to me how single people basically get gypped and the longer we remain single the more gypped we become.

She makes a good point, all the money single people spend on bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, kids birthdays, etc. we won’t see any of that in return until its our turn. But what IF that turn never comes?  What if I or whatever other single person chooses to never marry or have kids?  Does that mean our lives shouldn’t be celebrated?

I’m not complaining about the money, that’s not the point. I don’t mind spending money on loved ones, in fact I look forward to it because I am sincerely happy and excited for them. But this is where I think they should be considerate of their single loved ones and come out to celebrate a damn birthday every once in a while! Which is why now, I LOVE my birthdays, even though Carrie says in the episode birthdays don’t count, well I count them because MY birthday should be good enough reason for them to find a sitter and come out to celebrate ME.  It may not be marriage or a baby, but nevertheless it’s still a celebration of ME.  After all, how many times have I celebrated their life?

I never expect anything of anyone but I am appreciative when people are considerate. It’s the smallest of things that can make me smile.

So, in final, IF I ever get married, have a baby or both, all these mo-fos I spent money on celebrating their life, better step up and spoil me rotten! If I never marry or have kids, it still won’t stop me from celebrating ME and I don’t see why it should stop anyone else either.

As annoying as Carrie Bradshaw can be, it surprises me how this one episode of “Sex and the City” has caused all sorts of “WTF” thoughts in my head.

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Sweet Memories

saturday morning at the mercado...

 

I find myself lately with unwanted memories. I cringe at the sight of an old photo or I shake my head at the sudden thought of an old moment. It’ll pass I’m sure. MAYBE, one day I’ll smile at and value those memories or maybe I won’t, but for now, I’d rather not have them.

My favorite kind of memories are the ones that are not tainted. The ones that remain pure, the ones that are shared with people that I’ll never forget nor want to ever forget, not even for a moment. Those are sweet memories.

Sweetest memory #1: I can never walk into a mercado without the thought of my grandfather. When I was a kid, I would always tag along with him to do errands. We’d stop in at the mercado to buy meat, where they had this large tray of chicharrones (pork rinds) on the butcher counter. My grandfather would break a piece off for both of us to taste, if it tasted fresh with my approval he’d buy enough to take home for the family, if it didn’t taste fresh, he didn’t buy.  I guess I enjoyed chicharrones as a kid. I don’t remember liking it much as a teenager, even though my grandfather would still buy me some and send home with my mom, which I hate to admit, I didn’t eat.

When he passed away is when I started to munch on chicharrones again. I never leave the mercado with out some, even if it’s just a few pieces.

This is a memory that matters and one that I will take to my grave.

I annoy myself sometimes when I realize I am dwelling on a memory that just doesn’t matter. I do believe there is purpose for everything, good or bad and so, I don’t like resenting moments or people that have come in and out of my life, but I suppose there’s always that ONE. That ONE, where I do think I could have easily gone through life without ever have knowing. It’s not hatred or bitterness, I’m pretty certain of that. It’s just disappointment.  And that’s a whole other can of worms!

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Ramble #1: Monica Lewinsky

Remember her?!

 

So every now and then, an idea, a topic, a person, whatever will pop into my head and make me wonder. Sometimes the wonder will last a split second and it’s forgotten OR sometimes it’ll pop in and out of my head for a few hours and that’s when I know I gotta google it to find out more.

A few weeks ago I had a dream where President Bill Clinton was chill’n on the sofa with an old friend of mine. It was the strangest thing, I woke up thinking “Why the hell is the President in my dream. For one, I never dream of celebrities and two of all celebrities, WHY Bill Clinton?” Anyway, it got me thinking of Monica Lewinsky. Like what the hell happened to her? She’s not that much older than me, last I saw she was on QVC selling handbags. So, I was really curious what happened to the intern that made out with the President. It was seriously 6 a.m. when I should have been getting ready for work, but instead, I took the time to google this girl.

Here’s what I found in the 10 minutes that I took to google Monica Lewinsky…NOT much…she’s 38, single, living in New York City. Earned a master’s degree in London for I don’t know what. She does freelance work for a Public Relations firm and pretty much, that’s it. Her handbag line failed and so did her endorsement deal with Jenny Craig… remember those commercials?! Well, if you don’t there were only a few anyway. She was expected to make $1million from that deal and the commercials were to run for 6 months. Well she was too controversial, so Jenny Craig dropped her after a month or 2 and only paid her $300,000.  From what I found, this girl is up to nothing really these days.  They say because she’s a social pariah. YIKES!  Oh and they say she’s still in love with Bill Clinton… Really?!

Well, if she is a social pariah because of her history with Bill, then poor her. The timing of all that sucked, because if an intern were to make out with the President of the United States today, MTV would be giving that intern a reality show.

This is what I do. I get a thought in my head and if it doesn’t leave, I run straight to Google.

 

Want to read more?
http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/where-is-monica-lewinsky-now-13-years-after-clinton-testified-the-former-intern-is-trying-to-move-on-2528136.html

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2034697/Lonely-Monica-Lewinsky-trying-play-Bill-Clinton-affair.html

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Life Changes…

 

When 2012 began I had three areas in my life that I felt needed major improving, 12 days into the year and I am ready to put that plan into play!

Productivity. I had become a slacker. I fell behind in reading, writing, researching whatever tickles the brain, fell behind on personal creative projects, stopped the gym regimen and the list can go on. Pretty much I fell behind in life.

Action plan: Get IT together Clara! Seriously!

 

Personal Growth. Like I said, 2011 was unproductive. I wasn’t doing anything that was helping me grow as a person or in life. If anything I was regressing. Doing unnecessary things and knowingly making bad choices. A lack of productivity is usually the cause of this I think.

Action plan: Do ME! Clear the head and focus!

 

Health. I’ve always been a chubby gal and it doesn’t at all bother me. Helllooooo “Real Woman Have Curves”! Nevertheless, I wouldn’t mind losing a few pounds but no dieting. Diets are bull shit! I want to develop healthier habits so that it becomes part of my lifestyle and at least try to have a somewhat clean system.  Eventually if I’m able to I’ll do a detox. I’m taking baby steps. I don’t want to put myself into shock!

I don’t mind working out at the gym… ONCE I’m there. It’s the push to get there that gets me. And as for food… I’m NOT giving up pizza, but we all should really pay attention to what kind of foods are going into our bodies. Cancer is an ugly experience and so many of us are vulnerable to it without even really knowing. I really do think the foods we consume has a big play in developing or resisting cancer. It’s a shame that it’s basically trendy to shop at Whole Foods, the prices are just too high for most of America, but these days, eating organic or clean eating can save your life.

Action plan: Work IT!

 

Oh…and here’s the biggest challenge for this year… NO BEER or alcoholic beverages, for a while anyway. Not the entire year, but for as long as I can stand it. Reasons for this vary, but in short it’s not only healthier, but I think it’ll help clear my head. Special occasions I’ll allow myself a drink or two, but “Limited to no vices in 2012” is what I keep telling myself. We shall see.

 

 

P.S.  I love Beer! ugh!

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Words that stick!

I read tons, watch lots of films and converse with plenty, but I am not one to remember quotes from everything I read, watch or discuss. However every now and then something will jump up at me and stick with me.

 

“…letting our creatives be unproductive until they are.” - Don Draper,  Mad Men

Oh Mad Men… I love this show! The art, the era, the fashion, I love it all. Is it true you think? Were creative professionals valued much more in the 60s than we are now? I’m a Graphic Designer for a corporate American company. They have no understanding of the creative process or what kind of environment a creative person should work in. Gray cubes do not inspire, all they do is stifle a creative mind.  Then again, I am probably working for the wrong industry. I need a gig at an ad agency!

 

“When I’m out of sorts I look at the calendar.  There’s usually something significant on the horizon.” -Faye Miller, Mad Men

Another Mad Men quote! it’s sweet, but good to keep in mind when you are in a funk and feel like nothing good is coming soon. It made me feel relieved when I first heard this. I heard this when I was feeling like my life was stagnant. It makes sense. We are always so sensitive about time, we want the good to happen now and fast. We never want to deal with the bad or what may seem like the bad.  I know I am impatient and I do get frustrated when the things I want so badly are not happening.  However, I am learning to be patient, everything does have a purpose and regardless of how much like shit I may feel, it will take a positive mindset to remind myself that that I am destined for greatness, so there is no need for all the goods to happen all at once.

 

“friends are good and some serve a more meaningful purpose than others; SOME SIMPLY FULFILL A NEED. It’s just important to identify each of these friends quickly. Some are worth showing off for, others need not see you shine.” – Anonymous Friend

ah… this quote came from an old friend and I will never forget it. I forget how this piece of advice came about, but it is great and everyone should really keep this in mind when it comes to friendship. Not all are real friends, regardless of how much they say they are, some really are temporary and if we are lucky some will be permanent, but it is important to identity which is which because otherwise you will end up hurt. From personal experience, I would much rather get betrayed from a lover then a friend.

 

Es tan corto el amor, y tan largo el olvido.  (translation: Love is so short, forgetting is so long) -Pablo Neruda

Pablo Neruda, the poet for lovers. Unfortunately this quote is true for all. Forgetting someone you once love takes so much energy that it drains the soul. It feels like there wasn’t enough time for love, makes you wish to have just a bit longer. Trying to forget, feels like eternity.

 

This list grows as life progresses

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whaaaaaaaaa!

this can't be good for a graphic designer...

 

Man… never was I ever so desperate to start a new year positive and so I’m anxiously awaiting for the positives. Just when I thought I was done dealing with the bull sh*t of what felt like a betrayal from best friends, I’m faced with the realization that I should probably have a back up career and I should figure it out SOON.

For the past week I was experiencing right arm pain and tingly sensations in both my hands, mostly my right, after a visit to the doctor, I learn that it MAY be carpal tunnel symptoms. Other tests are currently being run, but for the mean time, I must wear a splint.

I’m pretty sure this can’t be good for a right handed graphic designer. :-/

However, with a determined mindset to have a positive 2012, I’m taking a deep breath and NOT over thinking it. Everything will work out, but it is likely that I will panic when the Doc comes back with conclusive results.  Whaaaaaa!

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